I Have a Great Life!

So I was thinking about the past week or so and I thought, 'Man I sure have it good.' I love Nate so much and he happened to take a trip to Idaho this weekend and I was home 'alone'. I missed him so much and then when he called me to tell me he missed me too, I started to cry. I am so in love with him and can't wait to continue missing him whenever we are apart. I know sappy right? But it's true I slept horrible without him by my side. I thought of him constantly and thought of how truly lucky I am to have such a wonderful man by my side.

Now back to the I was 'alone' for the weekend. I have fabulous friends and family! Seriously... I was never really alone after Thursday night. I came home from work to girlfriends and sisters, it was so much fun. And then Sarah (such a sweetheart) stayed over night and chatted with me all morning. Then Joseph joined in the mix and we went swimming with a few friends. Two hours later (and very sunburned) we retreated inside for pizza and Wii (and a nap for me). Caleb and Shala played Wii with the kids and stayed until around seven or eight, I don't remember. Then my parents came over with Cody the puppy and picked up the kids after staying for about a half hour. While we visited Sarah made me cookies, and then I went to bed.

I woke up the next morning and went to church and had a wonderful time. A few sisters saved me a seat in Sunday School because they knew I was alone this Sunday, how thoughtful, and I truly enjoyed the lessons. One of which was on Provident Living and I was so pleased to get more information and to share the info I have found. Then I came home just in time to tidy up a bit and then watch Nate pull in the garage and run up the stairs to greet me with a huge hug and kiss. It was so nice to have him back! Man I love that guy. Seriously, he is so amazing and sweet, and understanding. So thanks to all of you wonderful people in my life that make it one GREAT life!

For all those who saw the 80s.

I have been meaning to add this for quite some time. You may have seen it on my sister's blog but I thought it too funny to pass up, so here it is:

Total Eclipse of the Heart - Literal Version
(Actual video, new words)

Photos!

Go check out Nate's website. We uploaded the cutest family pictures! Thank you to the Baller's for being such a fantastic, and cute family. Seriously so much fun to shoot and they turned out wonderful! http://www.nathantgross.com

P.S. As for my last post I am feeling much better about the situation and would like to say that if it hurt anyone's feelings I'm sorry.

Very Annoyed!

Alright so for some time now I have been very annoyed with a few things. I was wondering how to get these out in the open and then I noticed many of my pregnant friends have posts up about proper pregnancy etiquette. Like don't tell the parents the name they picked out is ugly, they obviously like it. And other things as well, so I decided it's my turn...I am having a, Proper Etiquette Prior to Expecting, post.

First some background on Nate and I. We have been married for just over a year, we just bought a new house which is a huge financial commitment and we feel Heavenly Father wanted us to do it. We prayed about which way would be better, to get into a home or start having kids, and the best option was to get into a home now so I will have a better chance of being able to stay home with my children. So now on to the annoyances.

1. Please do not corner us and make us tell you when we are going to have a baby. That decision is between Nate, me, and the Lord. When we know and feel good about letting others know we will. I promise! (Especially don't ask in public in front of a lot of people.)

2. Asking again two weeks later may not have changed our minds, in fact it hasn't and won't!

3. I feel uncomfortable telling people we're going to try because I feel that's like telling people, 'Oh yeah we have sex all the time, don't worry it's not awkward because we're trying for a baby.' :P (that's supposed to be a throw up smile, not a joking around smile.) So please stop asking, when that blessed day arrives we will let you know!

4. I have a very big fear we will have trouble conceiving. Now this may be irrational but many people have trouble conceiving, so again don't ask! When we do start 'trying' we may have a hard time and I don't want the constant reminder, of the fact, we can't get pregnant.

5. When I'm excited and tell you Nate and I want kids and are praying to see if it's right, don't look at me in disbelief, and say, 'Really?' That may be the most hurtful thing in the world. I know Nate will be a good Dad, I have my doubts about me as a Mom. So I don't need you to further those doubts, or have me feel I need to defend what a great Dad Nate will be. It boils down to the fact no parent is perfect and when you say things like that to me, I never want to bring up anything important to you EVER again.

6. I can't handle when people are hypocrites, so if you hate when people tell you, you are parenting wrong then don't judge the way we might handle kids we are around. We will do it differently. So stop rolling your eyes and leaning over and whispering to your spouse how we 'already' do it wrong. They aren't our freaking kids! So if we get frustrated it's because we aren't used to messy kids in our house and we shouldn't be the ones picking up after them. (The one exception is if we have offered to babysit.) You are the parent and being at our home doesn't mean you get to relax because we'll take care of your kids for you.

7. This one is not just for me but in regards to ALL newlyweds, If we are sick it doesn't mean we are pregnant, in fact most of the time we really are just sick.

As a side note to number seven I truly hate this one. When Nate and I got married we had only been home from our honeymoon for a week when people started asking us if we had any announcements. Are you freaking kidding me! We wouldn't even know yet so why would we be announcing it.

8. This post doesn't mean I don't love every person who has asked me these questions. I just want everyone to know, enough is enough and I can't handle that question every time I ever speak with someone. I don't want to be asked every time I see you, I would love to talk to you about your life or about our new house or in general anything BUT when we should or should not start trying for a baby.

Alright so I'm done with my rant, I would just like to say again that having a baby and the timing are between the husband and wife, and the Lord. Even when we are 'ready' for a baby and we start to pray to see if now is a good time, Heavenly Father may have different plans for us. So that can be frustrating as well, since I have asked and have felt the answer, 'not yet'. I do continually pray about it but it's hard to follow the promptings of the spirit when everyone is asking when, when, when? If I knew I would be more than excited to let you know but I don't know yet. Heavenly Father hasn't told me yet and I feel so pressured to keep asking, because people keep asking me. Let me work it out with the Lord and then I'll let you know.

For All You Air Drummers!

Alright I have seen this clip countless times but I truly enjoy it every time. so I wanted to share it with all of you because it's pretty fantastic. Let me know what you think.

New House = Party!

Alright since our new place has a pool and club house we are having a house warming party this Friday evening from 6-10 PM. All are invited if you want to bring some treats to share that would be awesome. We have the clubhouse which means bring your swimming suits. If you need directions give me a call. I don't want to post our address on the web. :) It should be really fun and I'd love to show you all our new home. So come on over and play.

Sad News

I found out yesterday, a dear friend of mine lost his father. I am aching inside. This was no normal way to loose a loved one, it wasn't from illness or something sudden but from someone who has no regard for life. His father was murdered.

I can't imagine the pain he must be feeling. I have no words to describe my sympathy and heartache. I feel so helpless and so upset over it which only allows me a small glimpse into what he is feeling with this major loss. I am praying for him and his family and I am grateful he has such a wonderful wife to help him through this difficult time.

For those of you who know Paul Lemen, please keep him and his family in your prayers. For those of you who don't know him, do the same, this family is amazing and needs all the help they can get. Please especially remember his mother as she has lost her husband of 48 years and I can't imagine what she must be feeling.

I'm grateful for the gospel and I'm so grateful for the peace I have been able to feel and I hope with all of our prayers the Lemen family will find peace as well.

Different subjects all over the place!

I wasn't kidding with the title I have a lot of different things I want to bring up and they aren't on the same subject. So I'll start with the happy stuff and then I'll move on to the sad stuff.

First, our ward is GREAT!!! i mean seriously awesome. Our first week there and we sat by a really nice couple, they invited us over for dinner! I looked in amazement and said, 'That would be awesome! Thank you very much.' followed by a wonderful Relief Society where everyone told me about the ward and I had plenty of people to sit by. Everyone was so friendly and I'm very grateful for the fact that my ward is AWESOME!

Second, we still absolutely love our house. We have gone swimming almost every single day! It has been magical. Also involved in this would be the fact that we had our anniversary and it was nice to spend it in our new home. More to come on that because I want to write a gushy mushy post all about Nate. ;)

Third, (we're getting into the sad ones now)our family dog Ebi had three puppies and then passed away. My mom and siblings have been working really hard to feed the puppies and so far they are doing alright without their mom. This has been hard on my family because we all love our pets but the puppies have all been doing well which I think helps.

Church Phobia?

Alright to be a little honest I'm nervous to go to our new ward. We finished out last month at our old ward because the Valiants were in charge of Sharing time and we didn't want to do that to brand new teachers. So this week we are going to our new ward and it's weird because I know we will be in this ward for years. So it's a little intimidating. What if people don't like us? I know this may seem weird but as excited as I am to be in a ward we won't be leaving very quickly, I'm terrified at what will happen this Sunday. I'm sure everything will be fine, I just am hoping the sisters in the ward will like me and I'll be able to make friends in the area. So wish us luck as we start going to our new ward, our permanant ward! It's kind of cool we won't be leaving...we are officially adults.

New car smell?

Alright so you know have everything has a particular smell? I have decided nothing smells better than new house smell. Not even new car smell can beat it. I love our house. I also love our pool which I have used twice in the three days we have lived there. I want to say thank you to everyone that helped move. We were in, start to finish, in three hours. It was awesome and then a few people stayed and helped unpack! I have the best family and friends!

Nate and I turned in our keys at the apartment and now we are so excited to start decorating and arranging everything for our new house. It had been such a blessing for us and we're so glad we found this place. I truly believe Heavenly Father directed us here.

Our neighbors are awesome, next door in the same building is a cute family with three girls and they are super nice. I met the mom named Wendy and she is absolutely beautiful. I can't wait to get to know them better. We'll have to really 'try' because they go to the Spanish ward. And our neighbors on the other side are super nice and fun. They have a boy and two girls with another boy about to come. They told us all about the ward and even gave us their old directory. Told us all about the neighborhood and how we'll be having parties to get to know one another. They're our kind of people. ;)

Thanks again for everything you all did to make our move go so smoothly. It was awesome! Love, The Gross'